Thursday, 13 June 2013

The Happs... in my house!

So - for those of you who 'know' me on Facebook, and/or 'know' me in real life; may be aware that there have been some changes going on here... or at least, I hope you're aware!!!!

And I figured it was time for a blog post, an explanation, an introduction... you know; just something to keep you up with 'The Happs in my house'! 

Currently - the latest news is that Man-Flu has hit for the second time this season; and three out of four of us have been struck down! Me being the only one standing; hoping the kids start to improve tomorrow, and preferably hubby then as well (but he only got struck down today, so I am not holding my breath)! The kids aren't to bad - they're been sick for over a week now, but are just in that 'I'm a bit sick and a bit cranky - but not reeeeeally bad' state... hubby doesn't get struck down often, so here's hoping it's short-lived! 

But of course - this is not 'The Happs' I am talking about, just thought I'd let you know that we're a 'sick-house' once more! Of course - the upside to this is that everyone is asleep; but my mind is buzzing, so I am making the most of the peace and quiet, and lack of distraction here... being after 10pm though, I'd be worried if the kids were still awake; worried and rather peeved I might add!

I am deleting Facebook as of this weekend; going cold-turkey... it needs to happen, seriously! I have been muttering about quitting blogging, going private, taking a blog-break etc; but after much thought, I realised that it is not blogging that eats up all my time - it is Facebook (or Faceblab as someone once called it):



One of the issues I have is how they think they know more about me and my own personal choices than I do... the constant changing of privacy settings and friends settings is driving me insane! I discovered today that a friend of mine is still on FB regularly, but I haven't been getting her posts for months - I'd assumed she'd got busy and stopped posting. But no - apparently FB had decided, of it's own accord, that I no longer needed to hear from this friend! And now I am wondering how many others there are like this... how many others I am missing, because FB says I should! 

Yep - getting out, before it gets me!

And of course, all the changes with photos - I tag my Mum in a photo of my kids, as I want her to see something; and I get more comments from her friends than my own. People I don't even know can not only see my kids, but they have the right to now comment; and did you realise, because they have commented ALL their friends can now see that same picture, although they can't comment. 

FREAKS ME OUT... my kids future schools will have a profile set up about them before they even start. There'll be warnings about behavioural issues before they have even met my child, let alone given them a chance to prove themselves - they'll think they know all their likes and dislikes, their strengths and weaknesses, their friends, what they do in their spare time - possibly what they'll eventually chose as a future career path, or who'll they'll marry. 

And that is just the tip of the iceberg.

Do I sound crazy?

Then there is the toll it is taking on my own little family... I have very self-righteously said I hardly ever turn my computer on while the kids are awake - this is true. But the sad reality is that I have a Smartphone, so I don't need my computer; I get my FB fix, my e-mail fix and my text fix all in the one little place. I check FB regularly - I may not sit down for long, I may not linger; but I quite possibly know some of my friends little kids better than my own... I don't focus when they (they being MY kids) are talking, I don't play when they ask, I don't listen when I should be, I don't make eye-contact - basically they are growing up believing that Mummy's phone is more important than they are. This is NOT what I want my children to believe, and this is not how I ever planned on bringing them up. I could justify it to you, I could give plausible reasons why I should keep this obsession up and make it sound almost like it is a necessity to my health and well-being. But I can no longer believe it myself, and the guilt has been eating me up now for weeks, possibly even months - because it has taken me that long to convince myself that I can live without it.

I am hoping - with all the extra spare time, I will blog more often and on deeper, more meaningful issues... I will have time to think and formulate blog posts, and hopefully inspire and encourage people, which is why I set out on this journey in the first place.

There are more changes to come - now that I have started this journey, I am on a mission... so much wasted time in my life, so many more important things to be doing. Not just for my family, but for myself as well; this decision is not a martyr-thing, yet another 'sacrifice for my family' - this is me taking back my life. Me making decisions that a good for me, and thus impacting my family in good ways, me remembering what I am passionate about and getting back to my roots.

This is me, and I feel good!


2 comments :

MaxineD said...

You go girl - yes, I must admit that f/b settings are bugging me too, and again I am thinking to do likewise!
Love and Blessings
M

Amy said...

THANK YOU! You have reminded and motivated me to do something about our FB page...it has been on my to do list since at least the end of last year, but is now 'bumped' to next week!
I think you've made a really good call (and am also glad you are not giving up blogging!). Love Amy