Trying SO Hard!
Be warned - this is an honesty post; don't read it if you think we have the perfect marriage *grin*!!!!!
I am trying SO hard to get organised on the home-front...
Hubby had a 'wee chat' to me the other day about the lack of housework getting done, and asked me to 'pull my socks up' a bit (or words to that effect)! I know I have a tendancy towards laziness (who doesn't *grin*), and it had been playing on my mind a bit lately also. So we sorted out an 'extra' list of things he'd like to see done each week, and he claimed it would only take an extra 20 minutes a day to get all these things completed (yes I know - I wanted to throw something at him also)!
So the next day I dutifully thought through all the extra things that would need doing THIS week (as some things had been done over the weekend and wouldn't require doing again until next week), and wrote them all down in my dairy as to when I thought I could fit them in... it really doesn't look like much at all.
BUT - now I am trying to keep up with it all... it's just about doing my head in. An extra 20 minutes a day does not cover what I am attempting to accomplish - 20 minutes would be in a 'perfect world' without two little bodies clambering all over me, begging for food, attention, a change of nappy, or just a smile sometimes. After actually taking note of what I do manage to do ALL day, there is very little time for anything else really! I was feeling decidedly lazy, but now I realise that I am basically on my feet from the time I get up until the kids go to bed at night (unless, by some sheer cleverness(?) on my part - I do manage to get them both down to bed at the same time; like today, AND I make myself sit down and stop)! I might not get a lot physically accomplished, but I often don't get a morning tea break (meaning nothing to eat, and sometimes not even a hot drink - let alone time to sit down and enjoy it), and never an afternoon tea break EVER - as by that time of day the kids are generally both up, and I am trying to sort out dinner for us all.
But hubby seems to think that every other woman gets all the housework done, looks after the kids, has dinner ready ON TIME every night, and still manages to find time for sex! Hahaha! I tried to explain to him that it may LOOK like this on the surface, but he doesn't actually live with them 24/7... it went straight over his head, he is completely convinced I am the only lazy 'housewife' there is. Yep - it still stings a bit, in case you can't tell! I initially thought he had a valid point; but I have changed my mind; but there has been no attempt to try and explain this to him as he just won't listen - once he has a 'bee in his bonnet' he just won't let go. He has never spent a whole day alone with one of them, let alone two... he did look after Button once from 8am to 4:30pm - but my normal day starts at 7am and goes through to 5pm, five days a week!
Okay - this is getting a bit personal, and more like a attack / justification than a post... so I will simmer down a bit, and talk about a few other ways I am trying to get organised for this summer and beyond! Because the reality is - I do tend towards laziness, he did have a valid point in part... and I have been already trying to work on this even before we had this 'chat', and he knew that; so I suspect he was just making sure this was an area I would start working on as well (I have just taken it rather personally, as I do tend to do)!
So my cooking sux - seriously, cooking / baking... anything to do with the kitchen really. I have been trying really hard for the past couple of months to have dinner on the table or at least well on the way by the time hubby gets home from work; and I have done fine MOST of the time; the problem is they get the same old, same old over and over again! It's dull, it's boring, it's tasteless and it's uninspiring - even for me to cook! So I have decided to take control of this area, and am starting to spruce things up a bit there (tonight I am trying a meatloaf that Ange shared with us; it sounds yummy and fairly simple to make). I am also working on my baking and of course, that dreaded 'h' word... housework - in case you didn't work that out, shhhhh!
I still have a few cupboards and bits to rearrange and spring clean (did a whole heap of stuff before 'lil M arrived, but haven't had the time or energy to complete the job since). I am waiting on a couple of shelves for our bedroom to finish tidying this up, and have 'places' for everything; might need to do a little gentle prodding of the landlord - he is great, and did two shelving jobs for me a couple of months ago; but I suspect he has forgotten about this one! I have also written up a basic (albeit huge) master shopping list - just need to transfer that to the computer, and then I want to start menu-planning (again - complete failure at this in the past)! I really want to start taking control of our budget, it went out the window once baby was born, as did a LOT of things due to sheer negligence; but it's time to take control back once more!
I really am on a roll - baby has been sleeping through almost 100% for a month now, so I am feeling a lot less tired and a lot more inspired! Despite the weather this week, I know that summer is on it's way, and it just 'feels right' to try and get things back under control before summer holidays hit us!
So - there you have it... what are you trying to rearrange / sort / declutter / organsie before summer comes?